I think so! But Paul doesn't seem to think so. So let's ask you! Here's what happened.... Paul comes home from work Wednesday night and was telling me that he talked to his mom (Anne Marie) during the day. I asked him what they were talking about and he responded that she called him to tell him that last night (Tuesday night) an old girlfriend from high school called her house looking for Paul. Anne Marie explained to Paul that at the end of her 30 minute conversation the ex-girlfriend asked if Anne Marie would give Paul her number for him to call her! WHAT?!? I don't think so! I told Anne Marie she should have told this crazy that he was happily married and doesn't want her phone number! (Anne Marie would NEVER say anything like that so of course she took the Crazy's phone number!)
Why would all of a sudden...after 20 years....(yes...20) would this ex-girlfriend be calling out of the blue?! Anne Marie found out during the 30 minute conversation that she is living in Arkansas, has been married for 10 years, has a 6 year old daughter and oh wait....her husband is out of town in Columbia! (Anne Marie's words "She was probably feeling lonely!") Well then don't call my husband..call your own!! CRAZY!
So I told Paul she was either calling because she is not happily married (and had ulterior motives) or the 6 year old daughter is his and she feels a need to tell him. (I said this BETTER NOT be the case since in June we will have known each other for 7 years!) Paul says that she probably just called to see how he was and what he has been up to lately. WHAT?! I don't think so. You didn't see me sitting around on my "lonely" 8 weeks of maternity leave looking up ex-boyfriends numbers to call them up "Just to see how they are doing!" No...I didn't because I am HAPPILY married. But would that have been ok.....? I asked Paul what he would think if I just picked up the phone and started calling ex-boyfriends "just to see how they were doing?" He said he wouldn't care and I responded "Yeah right! And I wouldn't do that because I don't care....it's the past!"
I also told Paul it would be different if they were friends on Facebook or MySpace and talked there. He said no, that would be worse than calling each other and talking. I don't THINK SO! People are friends with EVERYONE on those things....it doesn't mean you are going to hook up with them. (I am not a current user of either of those sites being a teacher and all....so I would have to ask the opinions of the Facebook/MySpace users...but you have friends on there that are exes and don't talk to them...you just requested them to see what they are doing, right? You don't call them up and chat with them?) So is it worse to call and talk to them on the phone...or worse to be friends with them on Facebook/MySpace? It's a lot easier to look them up on Facebook/MySpace and push a button "Request as a Friend" than it is to look up their name and phone number online. Which by the way, she told Anne Marie that she tried to look up Paul's number first but couldn't find him so then she went to his parents! All this trouble "Just to see how someone is doing?!" How many Ian Thomson's are there in the Arizona Yellow Pages anyway....did she call them all!?! Did she call all the Paul Thomson's first to see if any of them where him?
So does Paul call Crazy back? Does it matter that I care? If I didn't care would that mean that I am "secure" in my relationship, and because I care, I am not? Does this Crazy have ulterior motives? Or was she "Just calling to see how Paul was?" It's funny how the husband was away and out of town when she did call! Would he care that Crazy was calling Paul? Hmm....Maybe it was just a phone call....
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This blog is hysterical. I just told Karissa yesterday that despite how curious I am about what my ex-boyfriend is doing, I would never friend request him on facebook out of respect for my husband, and out of respect for their current significant other. It is just weird, there is a history there. Usually, relationships you have when you are younger don't last long enough to ever reach the real problems, so you may look back on these relationships fondly because you never had to figure out how you were going to make ends meet with this person, raise a child, etc. BUT, when you think about it how real of a relationship was it.
Kind of takes me back to Emily showing up at Tricia and Andy's wedding, slightly pathetic, and you just pity them!
Everyone loves PAUL!!! I am going to drink heavily when I am older so that if any of my children's ex-whatever calls me I can give them a piece of my mind! HA!
It kinda depends... were they friends after they broke up? It is a little fishy that she waited til her hubby was out of town. I had an old boyfriend show up at my mom's house maybe 10 years ago (BJ and I have been together for 20 years now). I did call him just to say hi... the best part was it reminded me that I had made the right decision 30 years ago!
I don't seek out ex-boyfriends on Facebook, but if they happen to look me up (which hasn't happened yet, aside from a JUNIOR HIGH crush), heck yeah I'll accept their friendship! There's no other way for them to see how I've moved forward in my life, and that my life did not end with them! I am very proud of my accomplishments (marriage, children, friends, i.e.), and want to share them with people. I know you feel the same way, otherwise you wouldn't have a blog.
Now, if things started to get creepy, I would remove them from my friend list.
As far as Paul goes . . . remember he's innocent in all of this. He didn't know she was going to call. And, if I know Paul, he has NO interest in contacting her, but I secretly wish that he would so we could find out what her motive was!
Maybe, she was trying to contact him to let him know that a common friend they had was ill or passed away. Hmmm??
It could be harmless, but YOU JUST NEVER KNOW!!
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